I had previously decided to nix the "traditional" wedding when I got married because of the outrageous cost of weddings these days ($26,000 is the average today, and only threatening to go up when I get married). I get that you can do it on a budget, yadda yadda, but I'll be in professional school which will be netting me enough loans to kill an elephant. I'm settled and satisfied with my choice.
What I didn't realize was that I may not ever WANT to be a bridesmaid either. According to this article from my local paper, bridesmaids can expect to spend $1000 to $1400 to be in a wedding! I can understand paying for a dress and the accouterments, and buying a wedding gift. But multiple bachelorette parties?! Get-away weekends for the bridal party?! I'm astounded. I'm glad I read the article, because while I don't think I have any "bridezilla" friends, I now know what I need to ask before I get roped into spending money I don't have (and yes, I would be able to say "no" to a good friend's request--if they're really a friend they would understand!) And not only that, but I'll make sure that I don't become an assistant wedding planner either. IT'S YOUR WEDDING.
I'm just so nasty, huh?
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Speaking of weddings, I'm going to be in my cousin's wedding this weekend. The estimated cost: $70,000. My family's really excited, expecting it to be the wedding of the century. Luckily I'm a boy and just an usher, and I'm poor, so I'll get off without paying too much.
I want to get married on a beach. Possibly in Mexico, but more likely on the Mediterranean. Just a small wedding with everyone wearing white, and anyone who can afford to fly out is invited. And there damn well better be volleyball at the reception!
My wedding is...well, truly getting married in city hall is fine with me! I think I will end up having a very small ceremony with a justice of the peace. The reception is what I am more interested in! Homemade food, not catered, and friends and family!
I hope your cousin's wedding goes as well as hoped!
You know, when I think back on my wedding, I cringe now at what was spent. And mine wasn't some bigass expenditure, either, but it was traditional with a reception at a hall, etc. Now, I wish I had had the church wedding, yes, but not a big reception where you pay big bucks to feed everyone. I wish I had just taken a nice cash gift of much less from our parents and used it as a downpayment on a house or something, which back then, was so much less than it is now.
I enjoyed myself and so did everyone there, but really, the point of a wedding is ultimately, to get married. Period. Then start your life--together. It's possible to do it inexpensively and without making it such a show.
Yes. Definitely! I don't want a spectacle! I agree, a down payment on a house (or even a car) would be the best way to start out being married.
I totally agree! I mean, I went to my friend's wedding this summer (just as a guest!) and spent approximately $200 thanks to the gift, gas, and lodging. And I'm still in college! So yeah. I feel you on the small wedding. I'd much rather have a small ceremony and then invite friends and family over. Two of my cousins are getting married next year and I don't know if I'll be going (they're in MN), but I've been taking notes on my friend's wedding, and all of those Bridezilla shows, of things I don't want to happen.
Cuz let's face it: weddings are anticlimactic for the people not getting married.
It's true! I'd rather have a party that people might care to remember and would have fun during at the very least than a stuffy ceremony in a church that's boring!
And it takes a lot less time to plan a party then a whole wedding and reception! (And time is not something I have sitting around!) And there's less to go completely wrong.
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